Take good care of you
Personal Self Care
A common trait among many women is to look after everyone except themselves. It is important that you take time to do things that will support you in taking care of yourself. Providing self nurturing as an expression of self-respect will support you in appreciating yourself in your own eyes.
When you nurture yourself you are saying that you are worth spending time with, spending time on, and finding time to do things for yourself. So look at your basic self care routine. Do you get enough exercise, sleep and food? Do you find time for hot baths with soothing music and candles, time by the sea, or walks through the park? How much fun do you have in your life? What rewards do you give yourself when you accomplish something big or small?
When you can schedule time in your diary to take care of yourself and believe that you are worth taking care of then you will begin to make a huge difference in your life.
Keep an empowering journal or diary and write about your achievements and strengths. This can be one of the most daunting and embarrassing things for some people to complete because talking about how great we are can make us uncomfortable and if that’s how you feel I invite you to push through that and do the exercise.
Another important step is forgiveness. Forgiving yourself for not doing everything you had hoped to do, for not empowering yourself when you could have, and for whatever other reason you may use to put yourself down. Instead of putting yourself down reward yourself for being willing to try. If you didn’t even try reward yourself for considering trying! Do whatever it takes to break the habitual pattern of being hard on your self and try a little bit of forgiveness instead.
One of the biggest times you will have to learn to forgive yourself is when you don’t feel you deserve to be self nurtured or you choose to indulge in something that fits into your old patterns of putting yourself down. Forgive yourself, make a commitment to change your pattern and start again.
Yesterday is done, tomorrow hasn’t arrived and right now is the only moment that matters, so right now, decide to do something different and forgive your self for what wasn’t done in the past and for ever thinking you did anything wrong.
Self nurture becomes a habit when it is practised consistently, the more you self nurture the more you will feel the willingness to self nurture. You will begin to let go of the “trash” that is negative internal chatter and embrace the “jewels” that appear when you work on nurturing yourself.
Remember this is a different way of thinking and behaving so there will be times during this journey when you feel a little lost. At those times call on the people who love you, read your journal that outlines your strengths, do whatever you need to do to remind yourself you are loved by you, and if you slip, forgive yourself and start again.
About Diane Corriette
Diane Corriette is a mother of three living in London, England. Her purpose and passion in life is to empower women to discover their greatness using personal development. She also empowers women to enjoy financial security by running their own online business system.
For more information on Diane visit http://www.inspiraitonalguidance.com
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Any dream interpretors in the house?
I can’t sleep because I have been completely freaked out by a dream that has left me so scared I cant close my eyes and go back to sleep so I thought either I talk it out or write it out. Its 3.30am so talking to anyone is out of the question because as much as they love me my friends would KILL me if I rang them now and my partner isn’t well so I don’t want to call him either.
So the dream….. I’m at different venues. I dont recognise any of the venues. The first place is a large football stadium and there is a man with a strong upper body and only thighs for legs. He crawls along the ground, finds someone, jumps on their shoulders and wraps his legs and arms around their face and suffocates them. As people are being suffocated they make this sound of desperation as they panic and fight for air.
Everyone runs away and after the stadium I got into a four poster bed that was in a tree with a friend. We drew the curtain round the bed but I was worried that we wouldnt see the killer coming so left my friend in there and carried on running. The next place was an office and this time I had my youngest son with me. As I arrived everyone looked scared so I knew the man was already there killing people and I couldn’t understand why everyone just sat there and didn’t run. I made my son disappear somehow and decided there was no way he was staying in this dream! I went into another part of the building and started sending a txt. As I stood there the killer came in and dragged himself right past me and jumped on the shoulders of a woman who was in the room I was standing next to. The noise of desperation she made was really, really loud and scary. I ran up some stairs and heard her making that awful noise as she desperately fought for her life (the noise was really loud).
That one was too close for comfort because he had literally dragged himself right past me to kill this other woman so I decided to wake myself up (I remember the whole dream was in colour and very bright). Since waking up I havent been able to get back to sleep, so here I am at 3.45am now on the internet writing it out!
So if you think you can help me work out the meaning of the dream let me know….. I learnt about two deaths yesterday that were sudden and one completely unexpected (she was hit by a car) and I just wonder if it is because both deaths touched me.
Would you take them for granted if you knew they’d be gone tomorrow?
Today is Thanksgiving for those in the USA and I want to wish you a very peaceful and joyful day.
I’ve heard the saying “live each day as if it were your last” and I always thought that meant I should go out and do something that I wouldn’t normally do, after all tomorrow I’d be dead anyway so it wouldn’t matter!
But something happened today to make me realize what it truly meant……..
It’s so very easy to take people for granted because you think that no matter what you do they will still be around. Every day my children leave for school and our farewell is the same
“Bye mum, love you, see you later” (children)
(me) “Bye babes, love you, have a great day”
We exchange good byes as I am still rushing around getting ready and they may be in a hurry to get out of the door. Its our usual goodbye because we have the belief that we will see each other again later.
But how different would my goodbye be if I knew I wasn’t coming back?
I would probably stop to give them a hug. Spend time at the door making sure they had everything they needed. Knowing me I would give them a pep talk about staying positive and doing their best 
and I would send them off with a kiss and tell them to stay happy.
That’s a completely different goodbye to just shouting bye babes down the stairs!
Today my daughters boyfriend lost his mentor and trainer. He’s a semi professional boxer and his young life has been turmoil already. The one person he had that filled him with confidence was his trainer. One day his trainer went off to visit his brother at his place of work and was hit by a fork lift truck. The truck hit him so hard he went into a coma and today he passed away. God rest his soul.
This man left his house and said “see you later” and later never came.
This event has taught me how to live each day as if it is my last. It means validating people and letting them know how much they mean to me at all times even more than I usually do. It means spending more time talking, having fun, laughing with people I love. Even though right now I am going through my own challenges it is a time to be thankful. To give thanks for where I am, who I know and how much I am loved by those that know me.
As someone who took the time to read this I want you to know that I appreciate you being a reader of my work. I know there are many things you could be reading and I am grateful that you have taken the time to read what I write.
May your day be filled with love, friendship, and joy.
An amazing maze of Relationships
Being a human being emotions and relationships are something over which you cannot rise. In your lives journey you’ll come across a number of individuals some of whom may really fascinate you. You’ll feel like keeping correspondence with them. Is that the world terms as ‘Relationship’?? What is it that makes these interactions so attractive and how can the comfort levels be increased?
All the relationships on this whole wide world depend on the basic quality of how well are you able to understand the other human being you are interacting with. Whether it’s your parents or partner there are three major factors governing your relationships- You’ve to accept the person as well as get accepted. This factor is more applicable in case of the relationship of partners. Neither can parents let go of you nor can you leave them at any juncture. Though after a time their involvement in your life gets minimum but still somewhere their feelings does matter. You may not agree with all the ideologies of your parents but it’s always possible to strike a balance.
If you always do what you always did….
Session six and the final part of my eCourse – how to ask for what you want
There’s an age old personal development saying that goes
“If you always do what you always did. Then you’ll always get what you always got!”
Another popular way to say it is
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results”
What do they mean….?
It means if you want your outcome to be different then you need to do something different. If you know that you like to smoke after eating lunch and you are trying to quit then arrange to do something directly after lunch that will take your mind off smoking. Whether its going for a walk or having lunch in the office (if you usually go out for lunch). This is about changing your normal pattern of doing things.
If you are trying to lose weight and you know when you buy a packet of biscuits and bring them into work you end up eating half the packet then don’t buy them! Even if you are known as the person to go and chat to because you always have biscuits
Thinking you can buy the packet and not eat any (while they sit in front of you tempting you to take one) or believing that you can buy the packet of biscuits and only eat one just won’t work. You are doing the same thing and expecting different results. Chances are in 9 times out of 10 the result will be the same. You will end up eating half the packet.
Changing your habit patterns is important if you want to make change or you want to succeed where you might normally give up.
So take a look at your usual habits and asking yourself “how’s that working out for me?” – if you find in the past it didn’t work that well then change what you are doing.
If you are looking to ask for what you want look at what normally stops you from asking or look at how you usually ask and do something different. Do you usually beg people, or make them feel guilty if they don’t help you.
If you are not getting people on your side and they usually say no when you ask for help then consider changing the way you do that.
Other areas you may want to think about when it comes to always doing what you always did….
Are you in a new relationship? – take a look at how you interacted in your past relationships and see what didn’t work. Were you distant? Could you change that and talk more. Were you unreliable? Can you make a commitment to do something and fulfill on your promise?
Are you looking to achieve a goal? Why haven’t you achieved them in the past? If you set a goal what do you do that stops you from achieving it? How can you change that? If you know you always set your targets too high “How’s that working out for you?” – if it isn’t then consider making your target easier to achieve.
Are you always arguing with your teen? When they walk through the door do you find yourself asking them “Where have you been?” or “What have you been doing?” These questions make a teen feel as if you are accusing them and puts them into defense mode… especially if they walk in expecting you to ask that. Instead just ask them how they are, ask them how their day went. Change the habit of always sounding as if you are about to complain at them and just start a conversation instead.
I hope that was useful. Remember if you always do what you always did then you will always get what you always got!
Get hold of my ebook that will provide you with practical tips on how to ask for what you want
http://www.howtobooklets.net/ask-for-what-you-want-1.html
How to get your ex-lover back
My audience offline is mainly women and since writing my blog I have developed an audience of men and women (which of course I love ) and there are times when I will receive an email asking me a question. Now if I can’t answer that question the last thing I will do is make it up (or blag as we like to say in the UK) but I will go in search of something that might help.
A few months ago a reader asked me what he should do about getting back his ex-lover. It seems he had taken her for granted and she had decided to end their relationship (and yes he has given me permission to talk about it on here!) so I recommended he got himself a copy of an ebook called “Magic of Making Up. How To Get Back Your Ex”
He emailed me yesterday to say thanks because they are not only back together but planning to get married next year. Unfortunately they are in Australia otherwise I would be at the wedding myself…. but never say never right
If you need help with bringing back someone into your life that you lost and you think it’s worth doing then take a look at this book. Click Here!
Just goes to show that asking for what you want really does work!
And if you are still trying to attract that perfect partner into your life I have heard alot of people say good things about this book (but haven’t used it myself!) called How To Be Irresistible to men and How To Be Irrestible to women (just click on the appropriate link). Take a look Click Here!
3 quick and easy ways to build a profitable opt in list
Even if you have a big list only a small percentage will buy from you so you need to build a big list in order to enjoy sales.
1. Get your customers to trust you and your products first.
The certain truth is, the money will only come in when the consumers and subscribers believe and trust in you. They want a product or service that could be a good exchange for their money. People are not going to buy something out of your recommendation if they don’t know you.
2. Find a product or service that people want and need. Although it may not be your forte, if you provide a service and product that you have researched and learned about well, you can carry it on forward.
3. Make friends with other optin list owners
Being Able To Say No Is Also Part Of Asking
Session 5 of the Ask For What You Want free personal development ecourse focuses on being able to say NO!
Its one of the smallest words in the dictionary and yet for many one of the hardest. What makes it even harder is having to say NO to someone that you may have asked for help from and they said yes!
Someone saying yes to your request does not make you obligated to do the same thing. Remember at all times people have a choice and just because they choose to say yes it doesn’t mean you have to make that choice too. At all times your decision should only be based on what works for you. Doing something because you feel you have to, or should puts you in a position of feeling powerless and you should avoid that happening.
If saying NO to family, friends, ex partners or anyone close to you is hard the first thing to look at is what makes it difficult for you. Are you afraid of them? Are you afraid of their reaction if you say no? Do you want to remain “good” in their eyes so you avoid saying no?
Asking for what you want is about finding out why you don’t already and deciding what you will do to change that. Saying NO to anyone who asks you for something is exactly the same. There is a reason you can’t say NO and you need to discover what that reason is. Be honest with yourself, ask within (don’t have a conversation about it with 5 of your friends – you have your own answer!) and see what comes forward.
Just keep asking “why am I afraid to say NO?”
If you want to take it a step further sit down with a piece of paper and keep writing down the question until an answer appears and then write down the answer. Continue to just repeat the question and write it down until answers present themselves. You may write the question 10 times before you receive one answer but before long the answers will flow and you will have a list of what it is that stops you.
If you want to share what stops you saying NO then leave a comment. Also let us know what you think you can do about it (because beieve it or not you do already have the answer)
I look forward to sharing session six with you.
You can get hold of my ebook that will provide you with tips on how to say no and how to ask for what you want here
http://www.howtobooklets.net/ask-for-what-you-want-1.html
Diane
Are you doing what’s easy or what’s needed?
One of the great things about being a writer and being trained in the art of facilitating thinking and self reflection is that I am always doing it myself (thinking and self reflecting). My life is a constant stream of questions about what I am doing and why things are and/or are not working.
Right now I am questioning my ability to generate a much bigger income than I am currently pulling in and the question came to me today “Have you been doing what’s easy or what’s needed?”
I stopped and thought about that for a while and realised that I had become stuck in wanting things to work easily. My dream is me sitting at home writing stories that I eventually sell online and that dream will be realised, but right now its not my reality.
I am definitely writing and I will definitely be selling my first personal development ebook by the end of November (that’s the target I set myself today – had to set one because my partner reads my blog and he will question me about a deadline!! )
I also set a deadline to become a published (offline in the bookshops) author by Spring 2009 because I have been speaking about writing a book long enough and it’s time for the speaking to end and the action/reality part to take place!
But what I realised after thinking about it is that I really am not doing what’s needed to make that happen. In my ongoing efforts to think about how to bring in more income I had given up doing what’s necessary and just getting by with what’s easy.
I have friends who at this point will jump to my defence and make the following declarations
“You’re a single mother, you have a lot to do which is why things have slowed down”
“You’ve been through a lot so don’t be so hard on yourself”
“You are doing more than most people already give yourself a break”
My friends love me (God bless them) but excuses like that just don’t work if you truly want something for yourself and I have to decide whether I want the excuses or the results…. I know which one I want already so I better get back to writing!
One of the things that may definitely be needed in the short term is for me to think about taking on part time employment or running some workshops of my own (second choice is my preferred one)
What’s needed is for me to give this 100% of my focus and attention, set my goal for the first ebook and to finish my book then stay with that until they are generating an income. Of course short term (as in this week) I still need to take a serious look at employment, workshops or taking on coaching clients.
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Thank you for your support
I wanted to send a quick thank you out to everyone who has recently signed up to receive my blog through email and a special thank you to anyone who has taken the time to donate something recently because they love what I write and/or something I said has touched them or moved them into action.
I wasn’t able to add posts last week because of a block with internet explorer but as you can see I am now back in business!
For anyone new to my blog remember you can access information on
Getting “IT” Back – How to reconnect to passion/purpose or a particular dream in your life. There is a free ecourse called “Your IT” that you can read to help you start the reconnect process. I have written alot more than I have added and will be adding more over the next two weeks.
Ask For What You Want (free ecourse) – How to ask anyone for anything at anytime whenever you feel it is appropriate to do so. Asking for something is easy so most of this ecourse focuses on why you may not be able to ask right now.
Discovering Greatness – Using your own inner greatness to express your talent and abilities. We are all so brilliant and talented if we can only give ourselves enough credit and believe it. Again I have written more than I have up right now but will be adding more.
Attract without trying - Your natural attraction is a great magnet for people and I focus on how I use natural attraction in my life and the events that take place because of it.
I enjoy writing in these four areas and will eventually release a book on each one (it will start as an ebook) and for now I provided as much as I can for you to enjoy because I know when you follow personal development on a consistent basis it works. But only when consistency is involved. You wouldn’t brush your teeth once and think you never have to brush them again (well hopefully you wouldn’t!) so please don’t think you can read something once and expect your life to magically change. It takes a little more than that!!! A little effort every day brings wonderful results over the months and years.
Plus of course I am an advocate for Success University because you have access to some of the best self help minds on the planet. This weekend I listened to a course called “A setback is a setup for a comeback!” – a wonderful video about how to come back from any set back. Having access 24/7 to a large range of personal development audios/videos/text/ebooks and more helps me to continuously live from my greatness. If you haven’t already you can check out Success University at http://expand.successuniversity.com – where ever you are in the world this online learning portal will transform your life.
Right now “Ask For What You Want” seems to be making the biggest difference and I would appreciate knowing out of the four which one you would prefer me to focus on (remember when you leave a comment you dont have to use your real name if you prefer not too. Only I see your email address)
I will also do my best to make more of them available in audio too so you can download them. If you would like to advertise on an audio or sponsor one please do get in touch.